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Authoritative parenting is a way to enforce discipline and to demand obedience from your child. Such parents often expect their kids to obey their orders without ever questioning them and to just go ahead and do as they say. The aim of such parents is most often the wish to bring up upright and honest citizens who will do the right thing all through their lives. However, it remains to be seen whether this sort of regimentation with no freedom gets the desired results or not always.

A well brought up child the aim of every parent

There is no doubt that every parent wants their child to grow up to be the perfect model human being - intelligent, knowledgeable, well groomed, polite and dependable. Authoritative parenting is also a way to steer the child in the right and proper way to develop. However, if the parent becomes too demanding as the child grows up, he or she may become resentful and not want to do the things the parent is trying so hard to get them to do. This will bring about a rift between the offspring and the parents and create a bigger problem for the parent. Instead of getting the right results they may find that what the kid does out of resentment, is something very different to what they want him to do.

Adolescence a difficult age to handle

And authoritative parent and an adolescent child is a very difficult combination where you could have sparks flying. Teenager or adolescent children are to be handled tactfully and with understanding if the parent wants to succeed in bringing them up in a particular way. This is not only because of authoritative parenting, but also because of the peer pressure that the teenager faces and wants to be with the in crowd. It is here that being a friend to your child may help in bringing about a compromise where you can reconcile to a positive outcome. Being firm and being authoritative are two different issues. Do not bully or bull doze the child into doing as you want. Instead reason with them logically and make them see your point of view.

Create a warm friendly atmosphere

If the atmosphere at home is a congenial one, where everyone can have a say in the matters of the home, then the kids will automatically have faith in the parent’s views and decisions too. The parents should also set an example with their behaviour towards each other in front of the children. If the father and mother pay heed to what each one of them has to say and are respectful and polite to each other always, then the children will fall into the same pattern too.
A very useful and good habit is eating at least one meal together during the day, and the most convenient one is usually dinner. Make this a time for bonding where you can discuss the various issues of the home and take into consideration the views brought up by the children too. There is no need for a military rule at home, instead let there be peace and harmony at all times.